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4 Ways to Start a Conversation at the Gym


Here are 4 ways to start a conversation at the gym. Why? Cause it’s the beginning of the year.

Many people are committing to fitness for the first time (or the first time in a while!) to fulfill New Year’s resolutions.

It’s hard to be the new girl or guy!

In an environment that has the possibility to be really intimidating, showing kindness can go a long way.

We live in a world where people aren’t going to “go first”. They’re just not.

It’s up to you to make the first move.

Here are a few ideas:

1. Introduce yourself

“Hey there! I’m {NAME}. And you are?”

They will tell you their name. You’ll get a sense for how long they want to extend the conversation.

If they tell you their name, and that’s it, just say have a great workout and smile when you see them again.

You may find they share more than their name, and that’s a nice springboard for a conversation!

2. Show them where things are

“The barbell clamps are in the corner”

“If you ever need wipes, they’re hiding over here!”

CrossFit edition:

“Chalk is right there. Of course it makes you stronger”

Gen Z edition:

“the lighting by this window is great and if you have a pop socket you can clip it right there”

3. Find a common denominator

“We keep crossing paths! Are you new in town?”

“You seem to like the treadmill as much as I do! Are you training for anything or staying healthy?”

I try to wear race shirts to the gym on purpose. Why? It invites conversation!

In a similar vein, gear with sports teams can be great common denominator. If you aren’t wearing it yoursit yourself, be on the lookout!

4. Pay a compliment

“How do you like those shoes?”

“Love that top. Yellow is such a happy color!”

Real talk: you could compliment anything.

May want to stick to same sex if you’re talking performance or the recipient will think you’re hitting on them.

“Hey there, your squat depth is looking niiiice”

Creep. Restraining order.

My experience

I went back to an in-person gym in September, after five years of garage fitness.

Members at the gym went out of their way to make me comfortable.

It goes a long way!

Would I have quit the gym otherwise?

Probably not.

That said, I definitely go more days per week than I did at other affiliates where members weren’t as forward with connection.

More days will likely lead to improved fitness; I have the people around me to thank!

Go make some fit friends

Like, make them in real life.

Research shows folks are more likely to continue their new habits if they have social support, so odds are you’ll both benefit personally.

Plus, your gym will be a friendlier place!

And when you do, drop me a line on Instagram or LinkedIn to share how it went!